The funny thing is that when children are small, or at least this goes for mine, if you don’t actively listen to them, they call you out on it. If I don’t give me children my full attention, or am spacing out on the, they will ALWAYS call me out on it. Additionally, if I don’t listen they will keep nagging me. If I don’t do what they ask they will whine until I reply, and so I need to listen. Instinctively, actively listening to my kids has always just been more natural to me. But it has opened my eyes to how much I need to improve with it towards my husband, and also how much worse we are at calling each other out on that as adults.