At one point during my last pregnancy (my 3rd), I went to the doctor for a regular check up. I mention to the PA that I have been having some aches and pains around my lower pelvis and my side that I don’t remember having in my first pregnancies. She assured me everything sounded normal; but having had 2 prior c sections I do have scar tissue which is stretching and can hurt, each pregnancy can get a little less comfortable. She then looked me dead in the eye and says “this time also you’re older, you’re 30.” In the moment I wasn’t sure if she was serious or joking, I had to bite my tongue from laughing. I know 30 is young and the comment didn’t affect me. What it did get me thinking about though, is how different I am in this pregnancy then I was with my other two and how pregnancy can be a marker and a tool for our growth.